Are you the kind of person who would have the burnt toast rather than give it to someone else in your family? I am.
Teri Hatcher wrote a book called Burnt Toast. Now, I have to admit, I'm not a Teri Hatcher fan and can't bear Desperate Housewives, but this book was really good. Burnt Toast is about the way some women (including myself) always make sure that your other half and family always get the best, sometimes ending up getting the worst bits or going without yourself. ie, they always get the nice golden toast and you will take the burnt bits.
I've done it again! All Christmas presents are bought (and presents for Mark's 40th on Sunday), oh, apart from two small gifts that will only cost a fiver each. So I've worked out the finances to see us through until payday on the 30th and lets just say, hmmm, I'm going to have to be very careful and stretch the cash a bit.
Mark says this morning, that he needs the bank card to go and get some cash from the joint account, and how much could he get as he needed to buy my Christmas present. I had been looking for a new phone so I can access the internet from it, but the cash just won't stretch that far this month so I said I'd given up on the idea. So I told him to just take £30 out of the bank and use that for my Christmas present. He said he needed £50. I really can't see the point of spending £50 when we really don't have that much to waste, especially on me. There's nothing I particularly want, so whatever he does get will (although I'm sure it will be very nice - 10 years of training him on present buying is finally getting through), will really be money spent for the sake of it. it's not that I'm ungrateful, I'd just rather everyone else had a good Christmas, particularly the 4 year old and I'd rather not have to scrape for cash for the sake of him spending £50 on me.
So we agreed on £40 and that he didn't HAVE to spend it if he ended up wandering around looking for something to make it look like I've got loads of presents. LOL. I'm really not that bothered. I think he knows me well enough by now to know that I'm not being a martyr and that I do genuinely mean it. But next month when we've been paid and I say I've found a phone we can afford and I'll need the cash.. he better not get on my case about it LOL